There was a balloon seller. He had a son. Balloon seller got old so he handed over the shop to his son and retired. Son took over the shop and he found the earnings enough to feed himself and father properly. Life was going well. Finding his son capable of running the shop, one fine day father decided to marry his son. Now one more member to the family added them happiness and the responsibilities to fulfill her needs but the earnings were same. Daily earnings were not enough to support them for the basic requirements of each of them. Son felt sorry for providing the bride little and low. One full year passed. They completed one year of their married life. Son could not resist himself gifting his wife a beautiful saree. He had no savings and he bought that by the money he was keeping for purchasing balloons for tomorrow. As a result, next day he bought lesser quantity of balloons and the earnings were less. It became more difficult to cope up with the life. Unvarying and unrelieved troubles make the pleasure of relief charming upto the extent of eccentricity. Everyday's struggle and frustration made the son drunkard. This turned the situation worse; he was father of his son with no shop.
He ran under a cycle:
The story presents an illustration of vicious cycles of life.
Before setting out for the journey of Common Sense living, let's diagnose the term to get a better acquaintance with it.
Vicious means faulty, imperfect or impaired by a defect or defects.
Cycle means a period of time in which a certain sequence of events or occurrences is completed and the same is repeated again and again.
So, combining both the meanings, we interpret that vicious cycle is a set of events which has a slip-up once in the beginning as the cause, continuing with the results, leading to the same but worse degrees of the cause, in recurring cycles unless there is an outside intervention.
Vicious cycle is a collapsing system initiated by the slip-up; moves by the uncompromisingly unified 'cause-result' relationship; and ends with the end of factors or resources.
More sagely, we can say –
A situation in which the apparent solution of one problem in a chain of circumstances creates a new problem and increases the difficulty of solving the original problem is called vicious cycle.
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Vicious cycle is a collapsing system initiated by the slip-up; moves by the uncompromisingly unified 'cause-result' relationship; and ends with the end of factors or resources. |
“I got a depression since I was 15 years old and I became shy person from then”, shares a relative of me, “I am now 25. I only have a few friends and most of them are out of contact. In response, my friends think that I don't care about them. I try to socialize and yet I can not find a common interest”.
Slip-up is nothing but un-recognizing, ignoring or violating the Common Sense. This results into patterns of behavior and situations which can not be easily changed. The outside intervention which can change it is the application of relevant Common Sense of the moment.
At times, it would had happened with you that you see your school teacher or some old acquaintance somewhere in a shop or in a party and you feel like wishing and asking about him/her but something stops you. You may be thinking whether he/she will recognize you or not or what you will say or is it good meeting him this moment? and many more such questions pop up.
This happens because it has been long talking to or meeting the person which has created a gap. Due to this gap, you hesitate to talk and meet which widens the gap and he/she becomes more old and more out of contact for you.
The dame is the vicious cycle created by practicing less common sense.
This is the generic cycle inherited by all vicious cycles.
Knowing these vicious cycles is a Common Sense which comes with the ability of acquainting oneself with the truths of life.
There are certain internal and external influences which are the vigor for the inception of the vicious cycles.
Humans the complicated and systems. The 'physicalmental-social-emotional-spiritual' combination is different in each case. So, the cause of every vicious cycle is different altogether but there are some basic emotions and questions of life which toss us into these cycles. This could be put into two categories, internal influences and external influences.
Internal Influences
- Paradigm
- Accomplishment
- Greed
- Anger
- Possessiveness
- Ambition
- Emotional intelligence
- Treating learning as one time effort
External Influences
- Love (Marriage) and breakups (divorce)
- Bankruptcy
- Substantial financial loss
- Lay off
- Becoming a sole parent
- Three months or more unemployed
- Victim of violence or abuse
- Incarceration
- Illness
- Major injury in health
- Unplanned pregnancy and birth of child
Common Sense lives speak and act the opposite of vicious cycle lives. Vicious cycles are predisposed to take lives to downward spiral decline whereas Common Sense has a propensity to put the lives to upward spiral growth.
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Vicious cycles are the subject matter of dwindling whereas Common Sense is the subject matter of burgeoning. |
Fig. 14 Vicious Cycle and Common Sense Cycle
Vicious cycles are the subject matter of dwindling whereas Common Sense is the subject matter of burgeoning.
Use of Common Sense helps us to cope up with vicious cycles in following ways:
- Hinders the cause of inception of trouble
- Alleviates the ill effects
- Gives confidence to choose the right even in calamity